Today nak share something untuk lelaki lelaki kat luar sana.
I dont know whether this kind of man still exist or not, but pls pls pls dont be.
First of all, untuk semua lelaki. If you have a girlfriend, and you love her so damn much. Pls pls pls jangan paksa dia ikut cakap kau. We have our own life jugak kot. Pls tolerate. Perempuan kalau dah sayang someone, dia takkan pandang lelaki lain dah. Maybe ada yg mcm tu, tapi tak semua. Not like you boys.
And and pls jangan kongkong dia. It hurts man. Trust me. Belum kahwin kan? Jangan nak mengada kongkong dia. Dia belum wajib dengar cakap kau lagi. Kalau dia dengar, tu bonus untuk kau dan tolong appreciate dia. Sebab tak semua perempuan mampu and boleh tahan dgn lelaki macam ni.
Kalau dia buat salah, tegur baik baik. Something like, kan lagi cantik kalau tudung tu labuh sikit, sejuk mata memandang. Nampak macam senang je kan? Tapi tak semua lelaki ada sifat yg mcm ni. Tegur, nasihat dgn cara baik tanpa melukakan hati perempuan. Perempuan ni senang cair dgn kata kata. Trust me. Kalau dia sayang korang, dia akan buat. Dont be like, weh nampak dada kau tukar tudung skrg jugak! Pls dont. She might cry.
And pls kalau kau marah macam mana sekalipun, jgn tengking tengking dia and dont do that in public. Its really embarassing yknow. Dah besar kan? Buat cara dah besar, jgn macam budak budak marah depan org ramai. Orang keliling tengok je, kau tak malu ke? Kalau kau tak malu atleast fikir jugak aib dia. Kau tak kena boleh cite ah kan. Jangan sampai dia sakit hati, dia balas balik apa kau buat.
Dont play with her emotion and dont torture her mental. Even if you think that youre right, listen to her opinion too. Try to be positive. Ini kau paksa paksa dia ikut cakap kau. Pastu dia tak ikut kau maki maki dia. Its that how you wanna teach her? Maybe bagi kau benda tu perlu dipaksa. But to her, she didnt like it or maybe she dont ready for that. It hurts yknow. I've been through that and i feel like i'm going crazy, like for real. Maybe because i always get scolded by him, even for a little stupid things.
Bagi dia relationship yg macam kawan but at the same time you both know you love each other. You cant be serious all the time. She needs a friend, not a second parents. Because she already have one. Just listen to her story and be a good listener. And pls jangan lah asyik nak cari salah dia, help her to be better. Or you can just accept her the way she is.
And be a gentleman. Even if you dont love her anymore, go see her and her parents. Tell them whats the reason. Tell them that youre sorry, for breaking her heart. She still has parents yknow. Treat her well, like you treat her when you love her. One day you will understand when you have kids. Dont let your ego controls your mind. It makes you look bad and loser, because you dont know how to finish the things that youve already started.
Because what, when you get married, everything will be fine. Just believe in Allah's plan. He knows what is the best for you. Dont change people like you change your clothes. We all have feelings too. Understand each other. Kalau sayang, lepaskan dia. Because the most important thing is trust. Thats how a good relationship work.
Orang yg tak pakai tudung pun boleh berubah jadi lagi baik dari kita. Kan? Allah sentiasa bagi kita peluang untuk berubah. Apatah lagi kita sebagai manusia. Nak yg terbaik, mintak dgn Allah. Doakan supaya dia berubah. Bukan dgn cara paksa lepastu sakit hati lepastu bye. Kita sebagai manusia pun dah banyak kali buat Allah terasa dgn kita, ada Allah tinggalkan kita? Hmm, inikan pulak manusia dgn manusia kan. Jangan sebab hati, hubungan manusia dgn manusia terputus. Kita kan sama sama Islam. Tak baik gaduh gaduh. Lagi bagus kalau kita saling bantu membantu antara satu sama lain. Yang penting sebenarnya doa. Jangan pernah berhenti berdoa, mintak dgn Allah.
Sekadar perkongsian buat semua.
Yang baik datang nya dari Allah, yang buruk datang nya dari diri sendiri. Meh kita sama sama muhasabah diri. Annyeong!
